Definition of me? Not like you’re thinking

It always seems that people have a way of defining others.  I understand that to label others  is a reference point, so that one can either decide who we are in relation to their world.  What I don’t understand and probably never will is why they want to force others to fit into a round hole when they are clearly the square peg.  I’ve read others blogs and see the comments from some who’s only reply in amongst all their blah blah blah is “you need to join a group”.  Fuck that shit! Why and where does it say somewhere that one “must” do this?  I understand that in  the sometimes madness of our path, the magic, the finding of ourselves and trying to walk in a balanced manner, we can seem a little out there , different from the “norm” and even from others that walk a similar path.   But to join just to be included?  I think not.   So why do we join groups? Some do so because it feels “safer”..They can let the “higher ups” take the heat from society, and when they have no clue which way to walk, they can be pointed in the “right” direction.  Yeah I know I’m putting all these in quotation marks..it’s because I’m full of snark,lol.  That type of philosophy doesn’t apply just to the pagan people.  It also falls within those who are considered mainstream faiths.  The one behind the pulpit or considered leaders in the community make all the “rules” sling the dogma and doctrine so that all one has to do is put their nose upon the ass of the one in front of you and follow the smell of the bullshit.  Doesn’t matter the group.  One becomes a sheeple if that is the mode you take and refuse to question and seek for yourself.  I much prefer the solitary road of my path.  I seek out knowledge, from various places, surround myself with a cor group of friends in which to spin things, then take it and apply it when and where it works for me.  How hard is that to understand?  Apparently it is for many.  they just cannot wrap their head around why someone would not want to “join” a group.  I’ll explain it to them..even cut down on some high dollar words and not try to slip them any kool-aid….Most groups are lock-stepped in their thinking.  One must conform to teachings of theologies, doctrines, dogma, beliefs.  In a sense Stepford Witches.   Where does that leave wiggle room for an independent thought process? Answer is simple..it doesn’t.  I know many who don’t follow the complete teachings of a particular faith, and yet espouse it all the time…but my question is ..does that make them a ___fill in your fav faith here__, or has one changed it?  Lot of room for debate there depending upon whom one wants to ask.  I choose not to define myself by a particular label.  Witch I like..has lot of connotations that scare the bejesus out of others, and makes others raise their eyebrows~grins~…pagan will do since it is just descriptive…HUMAN is perfect because I am…weak, frail, strong, able..all and everything and yet nothing more than simple being.  Living in a small southern town, I try not to hide who I am..but don’t make a habit of being “in your face” with my path because hey, southern living can be more biblical than the holy land if you catch my drift..Full of those who are sincere and want to pray for my soul, and those who are full of shit because they need to sweep out the piles of feces in their own lives before daring to suggest others need to do so.  In actuality, they are both a bit misguided because I don’t need saving and I’ll bet that I am more closer to walking as their Jesus said to do than they are since I choose to help others, treat people with respect(no matter what path they walk),and refuse to judge others by what I think they should be.  It’s not just those in secular paths that do this however, and that can be a bit more puzzling to me.  One I understand where their thinking comes from, anything outside the “norm” is “wrong”, but for those that walk outside in similar fashion also judge the same way.  Why is that?  I would think that  they would acknowledge that while its different than theirs, it is still  acceptable because it belongs to you…Doesn’t always work that way because they still using some archaic yardstick in which to judge others.  Newsflash asshats….YOU do NOT define who I am, what I believe or how I live.  I get to do that.  So accept that, or move the fuck on.  Makes no difference to me which one you choose to do.  As long as you do it and do so NOW.  I refuse to answer for my beliefs, join a group because it’s “safer”(for whom  is probably debatable), nor will I justify my reasoning for you or anyone else.  My life, any part of it, is not up for discussion/dissection by you or anyone else…I get to choose…it’s why I am smiling at the scowl on your face now…My life, my choice…it is what it is..your approval is not needed nor accepted.

PEACE OUT