Many people toss that line ‘in perfect love and perfect trust”around in the wiccan /pagan circles. Mostly its when they feel someone is being too “mean” so remind them about perfect love…just what does it mean really? Where did it come from?
Well in truth, nobody knows exactly. It is suggested it appeared in Gardner’s early BOS, but nobody actually knows that for sure. It did appear in 1975 in Gwen Thompson’s “REDE OF THE WICCAE”. In the poem it states,
Bide the Wiccan Laws ye must, in perfect love and perfect trust.”
This notion is one of implicit trust and love in a coven setting.To stand in such an intimate space with someone and share energies and be vulnerable is the epitome of perfect trust. But what if one isn’t in a coven setting? Do we share that perfect love and trust with others? It depends. If one is in a committed relationship would you not want there to be love and trust? Nothing is perfect, so didn’t even include that word, but truthfully in all our relationships, there has to be some sort of trust. We have friends, some closer than others that we trust with our emotions, secrets, lives…family would also have that place of love and trust..most families..there are exceptions to every rule. Some people trust too implicitly then wonder why their world falls apart, and then others refuse to open the door and wonders why their life has no sparkle. It is drab, bound by the mundane. In everything in life, one has to find a balance. Learn whom to give that trust and love to..those who are there for you, willing to step up and give a hug when its been a rough day, listen when you need to vent. One who shares dreams with you, encourages you to follow yours. Life is not perfect..far from it, but it seems to me that if one does not open a door and allow people in, how are we to learn our life lessons? Even in mistakes, there are lessons to be learned..so they can’t really be classified as a true mistake, but we need to make them in order to grow stronger and know what we are truly capable of. I’ve had to learn to open doors, come out of the shadows..ok..was dragged out by some determined friends, but am learning that trusting isn’t all bad…even if it doesnt work out well…then I have learned that I am strong enough to deal with the storms. And that works just fine for me.
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