crossing the line of respect

Well, since I’ve been doing a little soul searching, let me just go all out…I think someone somewhere just doesn’t get the word “respect”.  Living in the south, one has definite views as far as respect for others living and nonliving.  some things are just not done.  For instance, taking pictures at a funeral is just tacky and violates the spirit of those passed over.  If you wanted something to remember them by,  you should have taken them while still living.  Also don’t speak ill of them.  they aren’t here to defend themselves.  yes, they did some pretty rotten shit while here on this plane, but it’s over and done with and they are no longer here to do them..move on.  So last night on FB, it startled quite a few of us to see the avatar of a recently passed friend adding friends, popping into private groups, sort of Ghost In the Machine kind of thing.  Freaked us out until the one doing so spoke that they were adding an obit to his page.  Truth is, they could have done so without hacking into his page(it’s still hacking even if you have the password because it is not your page).  And they added friends that belonged to their group as well as others (for what reason I am not sure).  Truth is, in my opinion, since they felt the need to go through his page, they should have put a status, “hey peeps, this is (redacted)..I’m tweaking the obit on his page, and adding people so they can see it:.  Perfectly acceptable because then others would not freak out so when they saw the interaction of his profile.  But they didn’t.  For me, this was a sign of disrespect to those who knew him well, and who’s grief is still raw and are still reeling emotionally since after the massive energy surge and work done this past month has certainly taken a toll on many of us.  It’s as if they gave no thought as to how it would affect anyone but themselves and their little clique.  It’s as if nobody else mattered.  So to that person, let me break it down for you.  We ALL matter. He cared for a lot of people who returned that love and respect, and for you to callously toss it aside without thought makes you disrespectful of us, our feelings and emotions.  An apology now would be after the fact and too little, too late.  But might I suggest that you rethink some of YOUR actions concerning others and their feelings.  The rest of us will mourn and remember him in our own way, moving through the process of grief as is natural, but it would be helpful if you didn’t try and  shock us all into submission.

DEUCES